Winter is here and I couldn’t be more excited. I’m sad to let go of afternoons at the river or the beach but I can’t wait until it is just a few degrees colder so I can throw some logs in the fireplace, mix up a Manhattan and start planning for day trips to the snow. One of my favorite things about colder weather is sinking into a steaming bathtub with a good book.
This week I took my first bath of the winter and read a few articles my friend Meighan O’Toole sent my way. The first is an interview with Michael Bennett and Sarah Bennett the authors/father-daughter team who wrote the book F*ck Feelings. Michael is a psychiatrist and Sarah is a comedy writer. The gist of the book according to the article I read in The Atlantic is “that life is kind of terrible, so you should value your actions over your emotions.” At first the concept can seem a bit harsh. Are we supposed to ignore all the bad stuff that happened to us in our childhood and the bad stuff that happens to us now? The short answer is no. They don’t suggest you ignore your feelings but rather overcome the obstacles of your life by accepting that sh*t happens and move forward by doing the best that you can. They urge you to be realistic about your future and move towards achievable goals. Pretty much everyone I know (including me) had at least one detrimentally crappy thing happen to them in their childhood and countless similar things happen to them after puberty. I know it’s hard to let those things go but they urge you to do just that. I haven’t read the book yet however the interview made me order it.
The second article Meighan sent my way was Screw Finding Your Passion by Mark Manson. It’s hard for me to even start praising my love of this piece. Mark begins by asking us to, “remember back when you were a kid? You would just do things. You never thought to yourself, “What are the relative merits of learning baseball versus football?” You just ran around the playground and played baseball and football. You built sand castles and played tag and asked silly questions and looked for bugs and dug up grass and pretended you were a sewer monster.
Nobody told you to do it, you just did it. You were led merely by your curiosity and excitement.
And the beautiful thing was, if you hated baseball, you just stopped playing it. There was no guilt involved. There was no arguing or debate. You either liked it, or you didn’t.”
He continues and talks about how people write to him asking what they should do with their lives. How is he supposed to know what a stranger who reads his work should commit their lives to? He argues that we already know what we’re meant to do on this planet but we’re too busy ignoring it to make it a reality. This is a MUST-READ for all of you creatives ESPECIALLY if you’re considering a career change or wondering what your purpose or passion is.
Once you make it through those two reads I urge you to check out the picks in our DIY + Creative Business Book Club this month. Looking to get through an artistic slump? Check out Creative Block. Have a wicked case of impostor syndrome or feel like you can’t recover from a setback? Pick up Brene Brown’s Rising Strong. Need a creative boost and want to learn something new? Check out Luxury Yarn One Skein Wonders and The Modern Natural Dyer. I have all four of these lovely books in my queue for my bath. To get you started on your winter reading we’re giving away three of these books The Modern Natural Dyer, Creative Block and Luxury Yarn One Skein Wonders. Check out the details below to enter the giveaway.
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If you want to win three of these books The Modern Natural Dyer, Creative Block and Luxury Yarn One Skein Wonders just leave a comment on this post telling us about your favorite thing about winter. Post your comment by November 18th at midnight to be entered to win. Make sure to include your email address so we can get your address if you win and ship you some lovely things to read.